"Okay basically i am 12 and pregnant. my parents are mad but they said that they will help me get through this. they want me to give it up for adoption but i want to keep it. what do i do?! please help, and minor detail they want to meet the father and well i don't know who it is. i was at a party when it happened and we were playing a game where you r blind folded then three people have sex with you and i don't know which one it is?! :( what do i do?!"
Honestly, this makes me sick. How do these kids even know what sex is at 12? Shouldn't they still be playing with Barbies and GI Joe? Whats even worse, where were the parents at this so called parety? These young girls need to realize that babies are not toys. They aren't like little dogs you can dress up and then put away when they're not cute and you're tired. They aren't fit to be a parents because they are still children. I wonder if they realize they can kiss the rest of their school years goodbye. Spending prom night at home because your kid has the chickenpox, getting behind on homework because you were up all night with a crying kid and not to mention the money spent and the friends you will lose. All of their responsibilities will be different and they don't even realize this. They don't realize that its not going to be all about them anymore and they wont be fine and they wont always be able to go to the movies or hang out with friends because their parents aren't always going to be there to babysit. I personally, know this girl who is 15 with a 1 month old. She decided that she wanted to get pregnant and would stop at nothing to do it. She had sex with a boy in a bathroom across the street from her high school that she barely knows. She lied to him and said she was on birth control and told him it would be fine. She comes from a very conservative household and its a disgrace that she had this baby. Her parents, at first, told her that she would have to give it up for adoption and she proclaimed that she would just go out and get pregnant again! Well, now she has a baby and her parents are helping her as much as they can because they are good people and want the best for the baby that doesn't deserve what he has been brought into. After-all, its not his fault his mother is a fucking moron. This same girl had the nerve to post on face-book not to long ago, “He really needs to grow the fuck up and help take care of his son. I didn't make him on my own so why should i take care of him by myself......and ..GROW THE FUCK UP!!!!!!”. Now, I am usually all for the father being a part of the kids life and being there and stepping up but this is a different story. In this case, he had no idea she was tricking him and also, HE'S 15 YEARS OLD!!! He doesn't know how to grow up yet. I wish these girls knew how hard it is. I'm 25 years old with a 3 year old and sometimes I think I am too young. I love my son to death and I am happy I have him but its hard raising a child properly, even with the help of my husband. Having to make hard decisions when your child is sick and you have to call out of work but your boss tells you if you call out you are fired. Sitting up all night long hoping a fever comes down. Baby proofing everything and still worrying that you missed something. Making sure they get a proper meal through the day, are taught the right lessons so you can send them off to pre-school, not going out with your friends all the time and even having some not want to come over because your kids had a few meltdowns in front of them.
Today, as a matter of fact, I was taking a shower and I thought my son was in bed asleep and in the time I got into the shower and out, he managed to destroy my house. He tore everything in reach out of the pantry, dumped the garbage can over, peed on my floor (we are potty training), dumped the cat food over, tore his books off the bookshelf in his room, and pulled all his clothes out of his dresser. I have OCD, so this stressed me out a lot. But, these are the things they don't know about. They don't know how hard it is. We need to get the garbage off TV showing how magical and easy it is to have and raise a child and put something else on. We need to teach in schools, again, that sex needs to be saved for when you can handle the emotions and responsibilities of it.